forced self reflection

When someone says "thank you like always for putting me in my place and letting me know how much your feelings mean more than others", it just does not sit well. You wonder, do I really always put my feelings before my friends and family members? Or maybe it is just what I do with people I am dating? I think back to my boyfriends and I don't really think that I do. I have always seen myself as a person who is considerate of others feelings and even overly-considerate at times. Maybe I am seeing a much different view of myself than what my friends and family see?